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My husband and I don't give each other presents: not birthday presents, not anniversary presents, not Christmas presents. <Gasp!>
The appropriate cultural response: How do you show the other how much you love them without buying them gifts?
Um, wow. Did you hear what you just said? (Ok, i typed it, but whatever.)
Why We Don't Buy Gifts
My husband and I don't buy each other stuff. We do stuff for each other and with each other. And we do it all year long.
It's a pattern we sort of naturally fell into over a decade of marriage. With limited time and money, we found we'd much rather spend both on building or doing something the other wanted than shopping.
The conscious decision not to buy presents adds even more meaning to the everyday gifts we give each other –– preparing meals, looking after household tasks, listening to the others hopes and dreams, or covering childcare so the other can pursue an interest -- and to the occasional gifts like building something around the house. For example, the floor-to-ceiling bookshelves that line nearly every free wall we've got are more than essential storage in a tiny urban row-house; the memories of afternoons we spent building them have been incorporated into the glue that holds our marriage together.